So, I just finished Gary Vee’s audible book “Crushing It”, and one of the many things he repeats is CREATE CONTENT! That message is loud and clear, and I agree creation is a wonderful thing. But I’m not going to lie, I struggle with the loss of privacy in the informational world. Document your life he says, everyone will have a little camera ball following them in the future he says, and honestly that freaks me out.
I obviously want to share my experience, strength, and hope with you, but I struggle with turning on the camera and filming myself (hence the blog). I feel egotistic, I feel stupid, and I feel conceded. I try to balance out what ego is vs what teaching with experience is. But in a world of transitioning, balance is only found through action and experimentation. So, I just move forward anyways. So, three keys that keep coming up in my research on how to engage people In the social media world.
That birthed a thought. That is why people watch, and a large part of them, are truly seeking information, to learn something. Then the next thought was, if I show them what I am doing, then maybe people would get to see the backend of what the sacrifice looks like, for example when I wake up at 4am.
I am grouchy every morning when I wake up. My mind tells me so many things, like, it’s okay to go back to sleep, it’s Friday. Why get up at all, you’re not accomplishing enough to make a difference, and I struggle with the inner negative voice. But something one of my mentor tells me is, feelings are not facts.
And I took it a little further, and that is, feelings are not facts, actions are.
Let me explain. Obviously if you are crying, in the moment, it is a fact that you are sad. It’s more of “feelings are not permanent”, and everything passes. Example, I wake up, and I am grouchy, sleepy, warm in my bed, and I absolutely hate life, and everything about waking up at 4am in the morning. But then I get up, make my coffee, sit down, work on my dreams, and I am happy, confident, and my self-esteem is empowered, b/c I did what I said. Fact, I got up, and worked on my dreams, and those negative feelings passed, and I am now in a better state. And the thing about life is, good & bad feelings will pass, but moving through them is key.
The hardest part about change, is YOU. You are going to be your hardest project. Self-Mastery has been practiced for thousands of years for a reason, b/c it is not easy.
Coming from my personal experience, it is hard to break what Jim Kwik calls A.N.T.S aka automatic negative thoughts, or what I call “invasive negative thoughts” or what Tony Robbins calls “changing your state, and quickly”. On the outside, if you were to ask my friends and family, I’m a really positive person, but not b/c it comes naturally. I have to put energy and effort into being a positive, progressive person, b/c I’ve made up my mind, that’s who I want to be.
Trust me, I get it. I’m from poverty, I’m a survivor of attempted murder, come from a dysfunctional household, and a lot of other complex trauma. The first 17 years of my life were chaotic. But despite the chaos, when I was 13 years old, and decided I wanted something better, my journey to strive to live a better life began. I have made so many mistakes in life, but instead of drowning in self-pity, I’ve decided that all wounds heal if I decide stop picking at the wound, and start living in the solution.
I show up for my life every day now, at 33 years old. I show up, fall, make mistakes, have to apologize, fall again, cry, but I keep getting up. I keep on trying. I love the quote from that “Rocky” Movie- Sylvester Stallone says it best…
And I’m learning, that he’s right.
Les Brown says it again
“if you fall, fall on your back, b/c if you can look up, then you can get up!”
I don’t mean to sound like an inspirational quote, but it is the things you listen to, you become, and these are the people I read about, listen to, take their courses, and consume.
You are what you eat. You are the music you listen to, the people you are around, the things you do, the food you eat, the media you watch… everything. B/c all of those things are just forms of energy, and what you consume, you become. When you are looking for the right people to hangout with, and the right mentor, but you can't find one, a good biography is a good place to start, hang out with your heroes in your mind. How far are you willing to go, to be the person you know you are meant to become? That answer is different for everyone, and you have to make that decision on your own.
Just remember you wonderful Bee, you have the choice. You have the choice to create your life, PERIOD! It’s not about what you don’t have, it’s about what you do have, and working with that.
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