• Lydia Walker

30 Days- 5 Goals, The Break Down



So, I took this challenge in order to get my act together, and just like I’m committed to changing my life, I’m committed to finishing this challenge. This 30 Dream Challenge consists of me doing 5 things for 30 days. And In order to get closer to my dreams I have to take massive action. I’m not going to lie, 30 mins I’ve been hiding behind my procrastination b/c of fear. Fear of what? Of writing a shitty article? Well, I do believe in doing my best with everything I’ve got, so I’m going to give you my best today, right now. First, if your just stopping in for the first time, my 5 things I am committed to doing for 30 days are…


1. Meditating and Praying

2. Working out and Yoga

3. Eating healthy

4. Reading

5. Write An Article Every day


Now, I know that some of these bullet points are a little vague, so I’m going to clarify each one in this article!


Meditating and Praying


So, what this means to me is when I open my eyes, instead of looking at my phone, I grab my personal handwritten affirmation and read it in silence and then read it out loud. What this does for me is gets my mind out of it’s normal anxiety state of “oh no, I have this impossibly long TDL (To Do List) to accomplish, how will I ever get all of this done?”, to I am capable, and I will do my best to make the most out of the only thing I have and that is today. Once, I’ve calmed my mind down, then I meditate. Today I listened to Dr. Joe Dispenza’s Week 1 meditation to align me with the present and not worry and fear about the future. But not only that, imagine a future that I desire, and not one that I fear. And then I stand up, and thank God for everything in my life. It’s that simple, but the meditation today was about 45 mins long. So, I had to wake up early in order to make sure that I had time for that.


Work Out Every day


This one is pretty straight forward. I like to walk, run, go to the gym, and practice yoga. Yesterday was a combination of strength training and yoga. I practiced how long I could hold my head stands, my hand stand, did some great ab workouts, and finished strong with a yoga stretch. This also took me about an hour.




Eating Healthy


Eating healthy at this point comes second nature, but since I am traveling for work, it’s been a little more difficult. I don’t really eat fast food, but on the road I have found myself eating things I would never eat like beef jerky, chips, and candy. Also, being in an Airbnb in a new place, sometimes it’s hard to sleep, so I’ve indulged in a few energy drinks in the mornings to get me going here and there. So, I’ve cut all of that out. I picked an Airbnb with a full kitchen and brought groceries so that I know what is (or is not) in my food. Being lactose intolerant it’s easy to have an accident and eat food with dairy in it, and then have to pay for it later. The most difficult is when I'm on the road all day, and I'm unable to cook. But I have been having to make a 4 hour road trip on a regular basis, so what I figured is, 4 hours is just 4 hours, and you don’t have to eat anything on the road, so I’ve just packed my 2 bottles of water and fasted across the road. As long as I don’t feel tired, there’s no harm in this. And if I do feel a little tired, one cup of coffee is known to be healthy for you without all the sugar and cream. With my new motto, focus on the solutions and not the problems I've come to be a little more resourceful and disciplined in this area.


Reading


This one is a little broader. When I say read, I mean physical books, audio books, and learning podcasts like Lewis Howell, and other business/self-help podcast like that. Basically, the criteria is, I need to be learning something, and I need to be doing it for at least 30 mins. Sometimes when I get off of work, I’m tired, but even when I’m tired, I can manage 30 mins. It’s about priorities. And here is a little trick. If you get off work and your eyes can’t seem to focus on a book, get on social media for about 15 mins, the blue light will wake up your brain, and suddenly you will have the energy to read that book. It’s a weird trick, but it’s been working for me. Not looking at your phone an hour before bed has shown to be better for sleep anyways.





Write an Article


And finally, my favorite! Write an article every day! I know that this one will be the hardest, b/c not only does it take me an hour to write an article, it can take me another hour proof reading, finding the perfect pictures, and posting it. But this is one of my biggest dreams, even if it just amounts to being a life hobby.


I recently read a book called “Do What You Love, and The Money Will Follow”, and it talked about doing the thing that makes you happy, and it will develop and evolve OVER TIME. I already write every day. It’s something I’ve been doing for free anyways, but hiding behind a private diary not sharing my story doesn’t help anyone. My goal is to help what I call the seekers. I had such a dysfunctional childhood all the way up till I was 18 years old that I grew up really fast, and missed a lot of wisdom that kids normally get from their parents. My goal is to give what I call the “seekers” or “Bees” (side note: should I start the term Seeking Bees?) a solid and clear place to start.


When I finally was able to get out of survival mode, and wanted to restart my life again at 28 years old, I honestly didn’t know where to start. I just started to read books, and then I learned the terms mentor, mastermind, like-minded people, and as my knowledge expanded, so did I. Well, that’s what I want to do for you “Seeking Bees”. I want to share with you my pains, my growths, what works, what doesn’t work, and hopefully help you get started on the right path. There were so many simple lessons I missed in life that would have saved me a lot of pain like, your friends are important, and you will get in trouble for other’s mistakes by association. This one is big in the black community, b/c some children don’t realize that the legal system is very complex and can result in life altering consequences being with the wrong crowd. Also, in the black community, I’ve personally had friends in gangs, and they were in that gang b/c of many reasons, but some were involved b/c they wanted to belong to some sort of “family”. Well, my friends, your family needs to be in the library not in the streets. I’m not a psychologist, and I’m not a lawyer, so I can’t give legal or medical advice, but I can give you what I’m calling “Standard Knowledge for Progressive Beings”. Your friends matter. The people you are around matter. If you must be alone, then be alone, but don't get into trouble for someone else. The YMCA, the library, cafe, book stores like, Half Priced Books, and Barns & Noble, be creative, try and surround yourself with safe positive places. When I was younger, I got heavier involved in school, b/c the longer I was at school, the less time I was at home. The activities I was in, were, FFA (future farmers of America), Marching Band, Cross Country and Track, Volley Ball, URL (things like debate, and studying famous art on post cards). You can get creative. Shoot, get a job if you are old enough, go stay with an aunt or grandma, everyone's situation is different.


Art, Science, Crafts, Clothes, Reading, Learning, Languages, Food, there are so many wonderful things in this world for you to discover, and your focus should be to surround yourself with as much positivity as possible. Negativity is already present, so you must fight for the light, for the positive, the growth, the beauty, and the love of yourself and others. Loving doesn’t mean you have to be around someone, love is a vibration that lies within you.


I feel blessed that I come from the ghetto, so when I talk to children in the future, I can tell them, I understand, life is hard. I’ve been shot, I’ve been abused, I’ve lived with an addict, I was raised by a grandmother, I’ve had a family member murdered due to drug crimes, I know, and I understand. I don’t know your situation, but maybe a little insight in mine will bring you hope and the vision to do better for yourself. Once, you have grown to where you can care for yourself, then you can care for others in a healthy balanced way. Everyone has a story, but we all have a choice how we continue to write it.


My call to action is still for you to find your 5 things, and do them for 30 days. If after 30 days, if it isn’t your path or calling, then do this 30 Dream challenge again. Keep what you like, get rid of what doesn’t work. The worst thing that will happen is you did something you like for 30 days, even if it doesn't turn out to be your life path. Life is an experiment, and you get to choose your and test your theories!





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